So this whole thing started last night with Roomie blaming her week full of dates and constantly ringing phone, on the full moon. Yes, apparently the moon not only affects the change in tides but the shift in popularity of my ever-popular roommate. My response was “Oh is that why my phone has been ringing off the hook all day? It’s crazy; I got a call from my brother and then five calls from the Marion County jail”. (Don’t worry mum it was the wrong number). I stared at her blankly and after about 5 minutes of “laughter induced” tears, we caught our breath and she said “well you know what the problem is right?”
Her advice was something about follow-through when talking to guys I am interested in… not sure exactly because I wasn’t really listening.
Everyone has dating advice for us single girls, personally I tune it out or say I’ve already tried it even though I haven’t. Sorry everyone, I really have been blissfully ignoring you.
So this morning I thought, why not turn it into an interactive blog experiment? I would have stories to share, and anyone online can dispense their “valuable advice” to a willing participant.
I will take your advice, try it out, and then blog about my experiences.
Whaddaya’ say? Wanna try a little experiment? Do you have advice that worked for you? Or a useful tip that worked great for your cousin’s-friend’s-sister? Anything you read in a magazine? Is there something that your mother keeps harping on you to do, but you are too nervous to try? Whatever it is, send it to me, I promise to try it out and let you know how it works.
Please keep in mind that budget will be a consideration so singles trips abroad, and expensive dating services are not options at this time, unless you actually own a dating service and want me to blog about my experience for a considerable discount.
I’m not totally convinced this will actually work, but hey, who doesn’t love a good story??
Join a sport! It worked for me!
Yeah like sailing lessons
OK, Rob and notso-positive-either, I will definitely take you up on those suggestions, but I’ll have to wait until the spring to start a sport. I am totally not into winter sports. Not so into summer sports either but I will give it a shot.
don’t take your brothers with you when you go out.
Actually getting my brothers to call me when they come downtown is a stretch, so not something that affects my lack of dates
I wish I had some advice stocked up for you… but it seems to come in waves (made of vodka) when I’m out and caught in a “spur of the moment” sitch. That being said, I used have similar experiences as you with the working up to returning a smile or even having a great convo with a guy then just walking away feeling that it was a nice lil’ experience, that convo was.
Here’s what I’ve been doing the last 6 years or so… if I think “man, I bet he’d be cool to hang out with this guy again” then I figure it would be kind of a shame to not test that theory out. So I usually find a topic, like restaurants/foods, or movies we both like, or activities we come to realize that we both enjoy (excluding sex – cuz… anyway) and I work in a “we should TOTALLY do that next week!” – like none of this wishy-washy “do you want to maybe sometime do that together?” – no, no, no… it’s got to be a take charge (on your part) and say “what are you doing Thurs? We’re going to check out that restaurant I was telling you about, I think you’d love it… and if you don’t, you can just watch me eat cuz that’s also pretty fun.”
BE ASSERTIVE. That is all you need to do. If you don’t find an opening like the aforementioned… then the second he says “I’ve really enjoyed talking to you” – say something like “me, too – wanna talk again?” or “DUDE give me your number we’re gonna do this again”.
Your task is to BE ASSERTIVE. Meet a guy, as you have no problems doing, then don’t let him leave without exchanging numbers (or adding on FB… since that is now an option).
I will post more as I think of them. You should be careful what you ask for ;o)
I’m having instant regrets and heart palpitations. Assertive, gulp. OK next time I’m out I will be assertive. (She says in a tiny wavering voice).
What d’ya got to lose? Lose him? Cuz… he’ll never be yours if you just let him get away anyway… I realize you hate when I make sense but I’m going to enjoy this blog.
Fortunately for me you don’t make sense that often.
I second the sailing idea – my sailing club boasts several marriages of people who met there. I even had one prospective member ask how many single women there were. Also it takes very little effort to sail if you do it right. I mean, look at me … .
You will say anything to get me to go sailing won’t you? Alright. When you are back from vacation we can talk about cost of lessons etc. I’ll do it for the sake of the story.
Well, I met my boyfriend by joining a volleyball team. No, you don’t have to join a volleyball team but how about joining something else that you like to do anyway? Salsa lessons? A cooking class? Even if you don’t meet anyone, at least you’ll get to learn about something you enjoy!
Okay, you’re going to hate me… but I’ll post it anyway. Sign up for Lavalife. Wait – it’s free. Here’s my simple 5-step process that has worked for me and a bunch of friends.
Step 1 – set up a hidden profile (so random creepy people don’t contact you)
Step 2 – send smiles to at least 50 guys (smiles are free)
Step 3 – wait for responses… ignore the people who send smiles back!
Step 4 – weed through the responses and communicate with the top 5 guys (via email, messenger, etc.)
Step 5 – after about 2-3 weeks of chatting online, go for coffee with 2 or 3 of them
Voila! Now… it’s all up to you.
Hey Not So Positive… don’t you HAVE to take ALL the advice given here? I can start your profile for you? ;o) I’ll do it with your knowledge this time?
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